Course Description

All relationships face a similar set of inevitable hurdles – at home, at work, and in life.

Success comes from learning how to get over the hurdles ahead of time and taking personal responsibility for turning up well in your relationships.

If you don’t, you could end up stumbling at every hurdle, living in frustration or giving up on the relationship all together. So many people live with the tension of relational strain or end up leaving partners, leaving families, leaving organisations… and in their wake they leave a trail of mental, emotional and financial trauma. 

Based on over 25 years of working with relationships, we have identified four fundamental habits that distinguish between successful and unsuccessful relationships.  These 4 Habits continue to resonate around the world through our TEDx talk which now has over 1.9 million views and our recently released book.  

In this course, we take you through the key principles and techniques that underpin The 4 Habits so you can build your own level of Relational Intelligence and learn to turn up better, have better conversations and achieve better results.  Through the process, you will become empowered to change your behaviours from habits that damage relationships to habits that strengthen them, on purpose.

Begin your journey to developing The 4 Habits here.

Take this six-module course to learn:

1.              HOW you can take control of your relationships.

2.              WHY your key relationships currently feel the way they do and what you can do to improve them.

3.              WHAT The 4 Habits mean in practice and HOW TO develop them, master them and make them your default habits, even under pressure

It's not about being perfect on day one, but it is about being intentional.  

Think about who you want to become and how you want to be experienced in your relationships by the people who matter most to you - even under pressure.  Then take this journey to become the best version of yourself and enjoy great relationships around you.

What you can expect:

The course is designed for individuals to progress through a 'self-learn' program, using a series of ‘bite-size’ videos.  There are reflection questions and short exercises at the end of each section to help embed the learning.  On average it will take about 30-45 minutes to complete each module.

Next Steps:

Get started with the course today and begin your journey to developing The 4 Habits which will help you transform all your relationships for the better, forever.

Looking forward to joining you on this journey to a better you and better relationships...

Andrea & Jon

What people are saying about our courses...

5 star rating

A superb course that's a must for all

B B

This is a fantastic course delivered in a very professional and enjoyable manner. The helpful format of bite sized videos, once attuned to, allows for easy ...

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This is a fantastic course delivered in a very professional and enjoyable manner. The helpful format of bite sized videos, once attuned to, allows for easy recaps of specific topics. The follow up quizzes and links are a great and helpful addition. To my mind, this is a well thought out course put together for today's fast paced life. I would be quite surprised if there were any regrets in the time invested going through the course...for me it was time well spent.

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5 star rating

Brilliant and engaging

J S

This course not only equips you with key principles for improving communication but also invites you to engage with its interactive videos and Q&A. This ...

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This course not only equips you with key principles for improving communication but also invites you to engage with its interactive videos and Q&A. This course is a must for everyone, whether you feel you are a good communicator or not!

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5 star rating

Very practical... brought things to life that are often t...

N O

I chose this course because it’s the ‘Golden Thread’ that binds relationships. If you get communication right other things fall into place. I must admit I wa...

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I chose this course because it’s the ‘Golden Thread’ that binds relationships. If you get communication right other things fall into place. I must admit I was a bit reluctant to sign up to this course because I thought it’s just another relationship course. However, the moment I started listening to it I kept playing back the videos as it was so interesting and I took my time as I didn’t want the course to finish. I like the way the course was presented in a bite size chunk yet you can see how the Thread connects. The short clips is very practical, it brought to life things that are often taken for granted in a relationship. I need to now put some of what I’ve learned into practice. Well set up and clearly presented. Highly recommend I’ve sent the link to my husband straight away. N O

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5 star rating

brilliant

A W

so practical; and helpful in building awareness and the skills to communicate effectively.

so practical; and helpful in building awareness and the skills to communicate effectively.

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5 star rating

Excellent - 5/5

G H

The course was well researched. It makes you stop and think how we communicate to our partners. It makes you think about what others want from life. You can...

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The course was well researched. It makes you stop and think how we communicate to our partners. It makes you think about what others want from life. You cannot change a person but try and understand why communication is the key to all relationships. Excellent course for those seeking change and a better understanding of our partners.

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5 star rating

Great course

s F

This course was very inspiring especially after having a baby....it has seemed natural that I have forgotten my best friend...my husband. I have learnt ag...

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This course was very inspiring especially after having a baby....it has seemed natural that I have forgotten my best friend...my husband. I have learnt again how to respect him, in ways that don't necessarily mean cooking and cleaning as we once cuturally believed. He too likewise now understands the importance of me his wife within the home. I hope this course has sparkled our love and relationship as husband and wife and pray that this effect is experienced by many others as relationships within todays society is not easy.

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5 star rating

Very insightful

G O

The scary thing for me was finding out how I've got this wrong for almost 10 years now. Unintentionally I can see how I've been disrespectful and dishonoured...

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The scary thing for me was finding out how I've got this wrong for almost 10 years now. Unintentionally I can see how I've been disrespectful and dishonoured the person I've claimed to love and respect all these years. Every bit of the course is purposeful - no fluff.

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5 star rating

Wow! So much that I didn't know...

J T

Really helpful course. I have learned so much in such a short space of time... and all in really practical ways. My wife has already got a smile on her face....

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Really helpful course. I have learned so much in such a short space of time... and all in really practical ways. My wife has already got a smile on her face. And so do I! I couldn't recommend this course more highly. Thank you so much Andrea and Jon!

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5 star rating

I wish I was doing this with my wife!

D C

This section is amazing, I believe my wife would benefit and listen to this, but with where she is at the moment I'm struggling to get through her clenched f...

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This section is amazing, I believe my wife would benefit and listen to this, but with where she is at the moment I'm struggling to get through her clenched fist.

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5 star rating

SO POWERFUL!

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This couple just got me in time. Their principles are simple but SO POWERFUL! I keep asking myself, why didn’t I think of that?

This couple just got me in time. Their principles are simple but SO POWERFUL! I keep asking myself, why didn’t I think of that?

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5 star rating

Really excellent course!

J T

Thank you so much for all the learning in this course. We have already started noticing changed behaviours in our relationship in such a short space of time....

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Thank you so much for all the learning in this course. We have already started noticing changed behaviours in our relationship in such a short space of time. I am looking forward to the next course already. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Course curriculum

  • 1

    Welcome to The 4 Habits Online Course

  • 2

    1) How can I manage my relationships better?

    • Module Overview

    • Before we go any further...

    • Making sense of what's been going wrong

    • The Success Formula for relationships

    • Quiz: Check Your Understanding

    • TIME for change

  • 3

    2) Habit #1: BE CURIOUS, not critical - Learning to manage expectations (yours and others)

    • Module Overview

    • Understanding why we get frustrated and how we leave each other feeling

    • How can I become more Curious than critical, in practice?

    • TIME for change

  • 4

    3) Habit #2: BE CAREFUL, not crushing - Getting better at handling conflict

    • Module Overview

    • Understanding why conflict is inevitable

    • Understanding conflict and learning to manage it well

    • TIME for change

  • 5

    4) Habit #3: ASK, don’t assume - Creating healthy boundaries around what matters most

    • Module Overview

    • Understanding core values and assumptions

    • Three BIG ASKs for building trust and respect

    • TIME for change – What matters most?

  • 6

    5) Habit #4: CONNECT, before you correct - Getting better at showing you care

    • Module Overview

    • Wired for connection

    • Showing Appreciation and Love in powerful ways

    • TIME for change

  • 7

    6) Taking Action - Bringing The 4 Habits to life...

    • Module Overview

    • Taking Responsibility for Your Relationships

    • Becoming intentional by building 'Will' & 'Skill'

    • Time for Change

    • Before you go...

    • Well done & Thank you!

Your Instructors

Your Co-Instructors

Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings

Andrea and Jon are the founders of 4 Habits Consulting and the UK registered charity, Soulmates Academy Foundation. As relationship education specialists, they bring over 25 years’ experience of working with corporates, communities, couples and individuals.

Through a series of seminars, webinars, workshops and online courses, they help people improve emotional health, wellbeing and productivity by developing their Relational Intelligence so they learn to do relationships well.

Being city professionals and entrepreneurs themselves, Andrea and Jon have first-hand experience of the inevitable strain on relationships caused by high stress careers, living and working together, and juggling the responsibilities of family and work in an attempt to find a sustainable balance. Based on four fundamental habits that distinguish between successful and unsuccessful relationships, they equip people to take personal responsibility for changing behaviours from habits that damage relationships to habits that strengthen them on purpose - at work, at home and in life.

Andrea & Jon are recognised authorities on the subject of relationship education, with numerous public speaking engagements, several TV and Radio appearances in the UK, a successful TEDx talk and a recently released book on The 4 Habits of ALL successful relationships.

They have been married since 1993 and have 2 teenage children… who keep them totally accountable on all the relationship advice they give!

Ready to take control?

Less stress, more energy and better relationships are literally within your reach...