Relational Intelligence (RQ) describes our ability to connect with and interact with others - to establish trust, manage conflict and collaborate together.  

Course Description

Relationships are such a vital part of our lives that we must learn to do them well.  This 6-module course will equip you improve your RQ by equipping you with the skills to transform all your relationships for the better, forever.  You will learn how to ‘turn’ up better, have better conversations and achieve better outcomes in all your relationships – at home, at work and in life.

The course is designed for individuals to progress through a “self-learn” programme, using a series of short videos.  There are reflection questions and short exercises at the end of each section to help embed the learning.  Each module takes about 30-45 minutes to complete. 

Learning Objectives

Taking this course will help you get better at:

  • Understanding how your behaviour impacts other people
  • Respecting different approaches/workstyles and finding strengths in difference
  • Anticipating inevitable conflict, preparing for it and managing it well 
  • Clarifying the people and things that matter most to you and creating healthy boundaries to protect them
  • Having courageous conversations about tough issues when necessary
  • Building rapport and showing value and appreciation in meaningful ways 

These are life-changing skills.  Looking forward to going on the journey with you…

All our best,

Jon & Andrea (Your Course Presenters)

What people are saying...

5 star rating

A superb course that's a must for all

B B

This is a fantastic course delivered in a very professional and enjoyable manner. The helpful format of bite sized videos, once attuned to, allows for easy ...

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This is a fantastic course delivered in a very professional and enjoyable manner. The helpful format of bite sized videos, once attuned to, allows for easy recaps of specific topics. The follow up quizzes and links are a great and helpful addition. To my mind, this is a well thought out course put together for today's fast paced life. I would be quite surprised if there were any regrets in the time invested going through the course...for me it was time well spent.

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5 star rating

Brilliant and engaging

J S

This course not only equips you with key principles for improving communication but also invites you to engage with its interactive videos and Q&A. This ...

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This course not only equips you with key principles for improving communication but also invites you to engage with its interactive videos and Q&A. This course is a must for everyone, whether you feel you are a good communicator or not!

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5 star rating

Very practical... brought things to life that are often t...

N O

I chose this course because it’s the ‘Golden Thread’ that binds relationships. If you get communication right other things fall into place. I must admit I wa...

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I chose this course because it’s the ‘Golden Thread’ that binds relationships. If you get communication right other things fall into place. I must admit I was a bit reluctant to sign up to this course because I thought it’s just another relationship course. However, the moment I started listening to it I kept playing back the videos as it was so interesting and I took my time as I didn’t want the course to finish. I like the way the course was presented in a bite size chunk yet you can see how the Thread connects. The short clips is very practical, it brought to life things that are often taken for granted in a relationship. I need to now put some of what I’ve learned into practice. Well set up and clearly presented. Highly recommend I’ve sent the link to my husband straight away. N O

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5 star rating

brilliant

A W

so practical; and helpful in building awareness and the skills to communicate effectively.

so practical; and helpful in building awareness and the skills to communicate effectively.

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5 star rating

Excellent - 5/5

G H

The course was well researched. It makes you stop and think how we communicate to our partners. It makes you think about what others want from life. You can...

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The course was well researched. It makes you stop and think how we communicate to our partners. It makes you think about what others want from life. You cannot change a person but try and understand why communication is the key to all relationships. Excellent course for those seeking change and a better understanding of our partners.

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5 star rating

Great course

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This course was very inspiring especially after having a baby....it has seemed natural that I have forgotten my best friend...my husband. I have learnt ag...

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This course was very inspiring especially after having a baby....it has seemed natural that I have forgotten my best friend...my husband. I have learnt again how to respect him, in ways that don't necessarily mean cooking and cleaning as we once cuturally believed. He too likewise now understands the importance of me his wife within the home. I hope this course has sparkled our love and relationship as husband and wife and pray that this effect is experienced by many others as relationships within todays society is not easy.

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5 star rating

Very insightful

G O

The scary thing for me was finding out how I've got this wrong for almost 10 years now. Unintentionally I can see how I've been disrespectful and dishonoured...

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The scary thing for me was finding out how I've got this wrong for almost 10 years now. Unintentionally I can see how I've been disrespectful and dishonoured the person I've claimed to love and respect all these years. Every bit of the course is purposeful - no fluff.

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5 star rating

Wow! So much that I didn't know...

J T

Really helpful course. I have learned so much in such a short space of time... and all in really practical ways. My wife has already got a smile on her face....

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Really helpful course. I have learned so much in such a short space of time... and all in really practical ways. My wife has already got a smile on her face. And so do I! I couldn't recommend this course more highly. Thank you so much Andrea and Jon!

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5 star rating

I wish I was doing this with my wife!

D C

This section is amazing, I believe my wife would benefit and listen to this, but with where she is at the moment I'm struggling to get through her clenched f...

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This section is amazing, I believe my wife would benefit and listen to this, but with where she is at the moment I'm struggling to get through her clenched fist.

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5 star rating

SO POWERFUL!

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This couple just got me in time. Their principles are simple but SO POWERFUL! I keep asking myself, why didn’t I think of that?

This couple just got me in time. Their principles are simple but SO POWERFUL! I keep asking myself, why didn’t I think of that?

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5 star rating

Really excellent course!

J T

Thank you so much for all the learning in this course. We have already started noticing changed behaviours in our relationship in such a short space of time....

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Thank you so much for all the learning in this course. We have already started noticing changed behaviours in our relationship in such a short space of time. I am looking forward to the next course already. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Course curriculum

  • 1

    Welcome to The 4 Habits Online Course

    • A message from your Course Presenters

  • 2

    1) How can I manage my relationships better?

  • 3

    2) Habit #1: BE CURIOUS, not critical - Learning to manage expectations (yours and others)

    • 2.a) Module Overview

      FREE PREVIEW
    • 2.b) Understanding why we get frustrated and how we leave each other feeling

    • 2.c) How can I become more Curious than critical, in practice?

    • 2.d) TIME for change

  • 4

    3) Habit #2: BE CAREFUL, not crushing - Getting better at handling conflict

  • 5

    4) Habit #3: ASK, don’t assume - Creating healthy boundaries around what matters most

    • 4.a) Module Overview

      FREE PREVIEW
    • 4.b) Understanding core values and assumptions

    • 4.c) Three BIG ASKs for building trust and respect

    • 4.d) TIME for change – What matters most?

  • 6

    5) Habit #4: CONNECT, before you correct - Getting better at showing you care

  • 7

    6) Taking Action - Bringing The 4 Habits to life...

    • 6.a) Module Overview

      FREE PREVIEW
    • 6.b) Taking Responsibility for Your Relationships

    • 6.c) Becoming intentional by building 'Will' & 'Skill'

    • 6.d) Time for Change

    • 6.e) Before you go...

    • 6.f) Well done & Thank you!

Your Instructors

Your Co-Presenters

Dr. Andrea & Jonathan Taylor-Cummings

Andrea and Jon are the co-Founders and Co-CEOs of 4 Habits Consulting and Founding Trustees of the UK registered charity, Soulmates Academy Foundation.

Being city professionals and entrepreneurs themselves, Andrea and Jon have first-hand experience of the inevitable strain on relationships caused by high stress careers, living and working together, and juggling the responsibilities of family and work in an attempt to find a sustainable balance. The 4 Habits are a culmination of their work in relationship education over 25+ years, drawing from principles in psychology, management theory and scientific research. Initially alongside their professional city careers, and now as their full time mission, they help people change their behaviours from habits that damage relationships to habits that strengthen them, on purpose.

Andrea & Jon are recognised authorities on the subject of relationship education, with numerous public speaking engagements, multiple TV, Radio and Podcast appearances around the world, a successful TEDx talk and a book on The 4 Habits of ALL successful relationships.

In 2023 they celebrate 30 years of marriage. They have 2 grown children… who still keep them totally accountable on all the relationship advice they give!

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