Course Description

We each turn up to a relationship with a certain set of expectations - some of which we’re conscious of, and some we have no idea about. Together, they create an experience of surprise and sense-making in the routine of daily lives together. Life is easy where the expectations are shared. The challenges come when the expectations are different and real problems can surface when unmet expectations are around issues that are “big deals” for us – fundamental issues for one partner or both.

In this course, we look at expectations and how to build more common ground in a relationship.  Specifically, we look at:

  1. WHY so often we don’t see eye-to-eye on things, and how that can lead to feelings of frustration, stagnation or even starvation in our relationship.
  2. WHAT’s really going on - THREE things you need to know about your partner to help manage your own expectations better and also to allow you to appreciate why your partner’s expectations are likely to be different from yours.
  3. A simple yet powerful model to help you understand personalities and how they can rub up against each other.
  4. TWO key principles to adopt to help you navigate your way through different expectations and find a way forward on the ones that are important to both of you and the health of the relationship.

Taking the time to build your understanding in this area will give you a new level of care and empathy because you are able to inspect your own expectations, articulate the ones important to you and understand your partner’s drivers as well.  It also means you can really have each other’s back because you know the things that will create frustrations and how to lift them out of that.  

Sign up today… and look forward to a new world of greater understanding and less stress as you learn to play to your respective strengths and cut each other some slack where you approach things differently!

Co-Founders

Dr. Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings

Dr Andrea & Jon Taylor-Cummings have been married since 1993 and together share a passion for helping people build strong, mutually satisfying relationships.

They have been running Relational Intelligence seminar and workshops in various live and online formats for the last 25 plus yrs. Based on personal experiences from their own marriage and observations from working in high-performance professional services environments, they recognised the urgent need to support marriages and other long-term relationships in the corporate world, particularly in environments where high stress, long work hours and extended time apart puts a unique set of pressures on relationships.

In 2019, they had the opportunity of delivering a TEDx talk through which they distilled their experience over the years into The 4 Habits of ALL Successful Relationships. Today the message is resonating strongly with over 1.75 million views and still climbing daily!

Their vision is to help everyone build better relationships – at home, at work and in life – and to do so on purpose rather than waiting until things break down before looking for help.

Andrea & Jon live in London, England and have 2 teenage children… who keep them totally accountable on all the relationship advice they give!

Course curriculum

  • 1

    Introduction

    • Welcome

      FREE PREVIEW
    • Getting in the right Mindset

    • Partners GO FREE - Send us details here for separate login, if required

  • 2

    1. WHY we sometimes don't see eye to eye (and how it can leave us feeling)

    • Intro

      FREE PREVIEW
    • 2 key ingredients to help you better manage expectations in your relationship

    • Making sense of how we're feeling in your relationship & what to do to improve satisfaction

    • Section 1 - Check Your Understanding

  • 3

    2. THREE things to know about your partner (to help manage your expectations)

    • Intro

      FREE PREVIEW
    • How they THINK & process information

    • What makes them FEEL satisfied in the relationship

    • How they'e likely to BEHAVE (especially under stress!)

    • Section 2 - Check Your Understanding

  • 4

    3. Why we both behave the way we do: A simple but powerful personality model.

    • Intro

      FREE PREVIEW
    • Now I finally 'get it!' - LIONS & OTTERS

    • Now I finally 'get it!' - GOLDEN RETRIEVERS & BEAVERS

    • Just how compatible are we all?

    • Section 3 - Check Your Understanding

  • 5

    4. How to show loving care in the moment (2 key principles)

  • 6

    Your Turn

    • Exercises - Overview

    • Exercise 1 - Make a note of how you each tend to Think, Feel & Behave

    • Intimacy Needs Assessment Tool

    • Exercise 2 - Clarify your own expectations

    • Exercise 3 - Get to understand your partner's expectations

    • Exercise 4 - Agree your way forward as a couple

  • 7

    Conclusion

    • Wrap Up & Next Steps

    • Sign Up Reminders

Reviews

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This course was worth the time! It's amazing how the simplest misunderstandings can create humongous issues. Learning about personality types and expectation...

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This course was worth the time! It's amazing how the simplest misunderstandings can create humongous issues. Learning about personality types and expectations has clarified so much and opened up my eyes to a new world of thinking, understanding, and responding. I now have a better understanding and am more informed on the best way to work on me. Take the course, it will not only enhance your marital relationship, but it will impact all other relationships in your life!

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The title is self explanatory and helps one to feel non-a...

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The text is very full and in depth and introduced me to a way a looking at things that I just had not thought of. This new way of looking at things and devel...

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The text is very full and in depth and introduced me to a way a looking at things that I just had not thought of. This new way of looking at things and developing awareness in itself can help avoid conflict too quickly as you try to work out what something really is, rather than drawing a conclusion too quickly. I have found the course helpful and that, as a single woman!

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